Who’s really Lucky?



I feel selfish today! Today I want my husband to be different. I want him to come home with flowers, or say honey I booked a weekend for just the two of us or something out of the ordinary.

I’m generally not this person. I'm not a bring me home flowers every day kinda gal. But I have to say I’ve been feeling very neglected. I don’t “demand” as some do that every Hallmark Holiday he bring me roses or candy or anything. But it would be nice if every once in a while I got a card that says, I’m thinking of you or whatever for whatever “holiday” it might be.

Now, I know that my being selfish is just that. I know he isn’t naturally that sort of person. So why am I feeling this way?

Is it because I’m home all the time raising our family, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning. Doing the mundane chores of life? He gets a break so I think. Does he in reality?


Is his “work” life so much better? He goes to work with a bunch of grumpy of old who really don’t want to be there and work. The company wants things done right now, but won’t give him the money or the parts.


So who’s really “lucky”


Neither of us and both of us. We are each doing what we should for our family.

My being selfish, helps nothing. But I can be a blessing instead of a hindrance to my husband. I can tell him I love him when he calls to complain about his day. I can also just listen. I can let him know that things here are doing well. We ate lunch in our pjs, and got some school work done on our bed.

I can tell him that the laundry is almost done, but I haven’t folded it yet. {this is the worst for me. I HATE folding laundry}

I can make sure that when he calls, he *knows* I am happy to hear from him.


It’s okay for me to feel selfish, it is not okay for me to make my family or husband or anyone else miserable because of it. It is also not okay for me to be a stumbling block to my family over this. My actions can cause hurt if I am not careful. That can hurt my marriage.


I want nothing more than to ensure I am lifting my husband up and giving my cares, worries, selfishness, joy, envy, strife, love to God so he can take care of it.

 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,  when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.1 Peter 3: 1-2

I am learning to listen to this verse. I cannot drag my husband to church. It won’t do any good. But I can still respect him, love him, honor him and show Christ to him.


By practicing- yes practice- trying to be  Proverbs 31 wife, I can show him Christ and that I still love, honor and respect him.

She brings him good and not evil
all the days of her life…….

She is clothed with strength and honor,
and she can laugh at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and loving instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed,
her husband also praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done valiantly,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting,
but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.
31 Give her credit for what she has accomplished,
and let her works praise her in the city gates.


I want to be a light for Hubby. I want him to be well pleased with all I do, even if I feel it is mundane.


I want to Honor not only Hubby, but God.


How do you deal with your feelings? Leave a comment below. I’d love to hear.



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